Even if we try to avoid it, children find out what is happening: they hear about it at school, see it on screens or notice our worry. Silence does not protect them; it leaves them alone with their imagination.

How to talk about it

  • First ask what they know. That way we correct misunderstandings and do not give more information than necessary.
  • Tell the truth in simple words. No distressing details and no promises we cannot keep.
  • Acknowledge their fear. “It's normal for it to scare you; it shook me too”.
  • Give concrete reassurance. Explain what is done to protect people and what we would do.
  • Limit the images. Seeing them over and over makes children think it is happening again.

Talk about the helpers

Firefighters, health workers, volunteers, neighbours. Focusing on the people who help gives a fuller and less threatening picture of what has happened.

Do something

Taking part in a collection of supplies or making a drawing for the people affected turns helplessness into action.

If after a few weeks there are still nightmares, fear of being separated or constant worry, it is advisable to see a professional.