Playing video games is not bad in itself. It can be fun, social and even stimulating. Problems appear when it takes the place of sleep, homework, physical activity or friends, or when the content is not right for their age.

Rules that help

  • Agree on times before they start, not at the moment of switching off.
  • Duties first. Homework, chores and time outdoors.
  • Give a ten-minute warning and let them finish the game when possible.
  • Consoles and screens in a shared space, out of the bedroom and well away from bedtime.
  • Check the recommended age. The PEGI rating shows which age each game is for and what kind of content it has.

Take an interest in what they play

Sit down with them, ask them to show you and play a game or two. That way we know what they are playing and who they are talking to, and they see that we do not treat it as the enemy.

Watch out for online play

Explain that they must not give out personal details, turn on parental controls and talk about in-game purchases.

Warning signs

Intense irritability when they cannot play, lying about time spent, dropping other activities or falling behind at school. If these persist, it is worth seeking advice.