How can I help my child when they have nightmares?
Nightmares are common in childhood. Comforting, listening and looking after sleep routines is usually enough for them to lose their power.
A nightmare is a frightening dream that wakes the child, usually in the second half of the night. Unlike night terrors, they wake up fully, remember what they dreamed and look for comfort.
During the night
- Go to them calmly and stay with them for a few minutes.
- Acknowledge the fear: “that was a really scary dream, it's over now”.
- Do not turn on all the lights or start a long conversation.
- Help them get back to sleep in their own bed.
During the day
If they want to talk about it, listen. Drawing the nightmare and making up a different or funny ending helps a lot: it gives them a sense of control. Avoid scary content, especially late in the day.
Routines that protect
Regular bedtimes, a quiet time before sleep with no screens, and a night light or a cuddly toy if it makes them feel safe.
What to avoid
Making fun of their fear, telling them they are “a big boy” or “a big girl” now, or making it a habit for them to end up in our bed every night.
When to see someone
If nightmares are very frequent, always repeat the same theme, start after a difficult event or make them afraid of going to bed, it is worth talking to a professional.